My daughter's problems are my fault?!?
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Well, as I am writing this I am in tears. Unfortunately, I am one of those people who cries and hides when she's angry. I know it's a silly strategy but old habits die hard. Anyway, I'll have to start from the beginning for this to make sense. So here goes.....well, half term was a relief although by Friday, I couldn't wait for my daughter to go back to school. I'm sure that there a few of you nodding your head along in agreement. However, she started stressing about returning to school over the weekend so I went in to have a word with the teacher first thing on Monday. Everything seemed fine for a couple of days and then my daughter started to come home in tears again. I asked her what had happened and she said that she felt that the teachers were no longer helping her with bullies. So, on Friday morning, I went to have a word with the Head and he said that he would investigate and meet with me at the end of the school day. When I met up with him after school, he had the nerve to tell me that I had created this mess myself by listening to my daughter complain about school and that I should stop listening to her problems! He said that it's like when you put a child to bed, the more attention you give them the longer it takes for them to settle. He said that I should not allow her to tell me about her school day as I was rewarding her with attention. Basically, he was making out that all this stuff with the bullies was attention-seeking behaviour on her part. What makes it worse is that at least three other parents have been in to complain about bullying in the class...so is it their children's fault as well? So I was furious and came home and told my husband.......you know what!?! He agreed with the head! Which brings me nicely to the next point....we were just talking about the whole thing now and my husband had the nerve to say that my daughter is more prone to being bullied because I'm making her soft! AGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I am surrounded by morons. No wonder children feel they have no-one to turn to with people like this around. The sad thing is now I am beginning to doubt myself......have I been paying her TOO much attention? Have I been listening too much?????? How sad is that.........